10 Wedding Don'ts for Brides & Grooms in 2020

You're planning your wedding. There are lots of people telling you what to do. But what about the other side of the coin? What about the don'ts? We've compiled ten important wedding don'ts to keep you clear of the pitfalls.

1. DON'T create a wedding for others at the expense of your personal desires and responsibilities.

A wedding is an event intended to bring people together -- families, friends, the community of people around you. But more than anything else, it is about uniting two people together for life. As you begin planning your wedding, try to focus on creating the kind of celebration you want, not the one you think other people will expect you to have. Yes, it's important to consider other people's feelings. Yes, symbolic gestures will please others. But don't make choices to please others if they will make you unhappy, and don't spend more than you can afford.

2. DON'T invite people just because you think you have to.

The simple truth of wedding budgeting is that each additional guest means an increase in cost. If you have a specific budget limit (and most people do), you reduce your ability to spend on other items each time you increase the headcount. On your wedding day, you want to be surrounded by familiar, loving smiles -- not people you barely recognize.

3. DON'T be late.

This rule applies to the bride, the groom, and everyone else involved in the wedding. Try to start your wedding on time. If you don't, everything will run behind schedule, and that can create real problems, especially if there is another event scheduled. If locations or service people (waiters, bartenders, musicians, etc.) end up working later than originally scheduled, you may find unpleasant overtime charges added to your final bill.

4. DON'T worry about things going wrong.

There's no point in panicking the morning of the wedding. Minor problems will probably occur and no one will really even notice; if a big problem is looming, there's probably little that can be done about it at this point. So why worry? Let others take care of the final details. Relax, smile, and enjoy your special day.

5. DON'T tune out.

Stress is so common in wedding planning- even if you’re an easy-going bride, there is bound to be something stressful in your wedding planning journey! After all, you’re planning one of the biggest days of your life! It’s not easy planning your big day, dealing with family, making all those decisions, worrying if you’re upsetting someone, who to invite. It’s normal to be stressed, however, how you handle it can make or break your confidence in yourself leading up to your big day. Some brides are so overwhelmed by wedding anxiety that they turn to over-the-counter sedatives, overeating, sweets or alcohol to calm nerves. Resist the temptation to medicate yourself through the nerve-wracking final hours. You'll want to remember this day.

6. DON'T include things that don't matter to you.

While observing wedding traditions can create a sense of continuity and community at a wedding celebration, they aren't essential. You don't have to have grand haldi decor and a lavish sangeet cocktail night if you don't want to. Although you should be careful about tampering with religious rituals, feel free to create your own traditions.

7. DON'T forget to eat.

Famished, fainting brides and grooms are a bigger problem than you might imagine. Considering skipping breakfast so you can look svelte in your wedding attire? Don't. It may be your last meal of the day, and you'll need the energy. If jitters have your stomach in a knot, try to eat a few saltines. As the minutes tick down to showtime, you probably won't have a chance to grab a bite to eat. Many couples are so busy with photographs with guests and other ceremonies that they barely get a bite of their own wedding menu. Not eating can make you cranky at the least; and cause you to faint at the worst. In a recent survey, 36% of all honeymooners said the first thing they did when they got to their suite after the wedding was… eat something. Eat a meal before the wedding, and try to eat at the wedding reception too.

8. DON'T spend too much time with any particular guest.

It may be difficult, but you should make it your goal to not spend more than a few minutes visiting with each of your wedding guests. The only way you're going to make it through the crowd and still do all the other things you're supposed to do (jaimala, phere, photographs) is if you push yourself to be brief with each guest. You can always circle back later and spend some extra time with your favorite people.

9. DON'T let guests drink and drive.

You shouldn't have to police your wedding, but make sure that the bartenders and waitstaff are alert to ensuring your guests' safety. Recruit someone to keep their eyes on the crowd (and each other!) in case some end up enjoying his or herself a little too much. If someone has had too much, the attendant can escort that person out of view and address the situation. If the party animal doesn't have a ride home, he or she should be put in a cab. It only takes an instant for the memory of your wedding celebration to be scarred by a tragic accident.

10. DON'T forget what it's really all about.

Your wedding day will pass quickly. All the months of planning will be realized in just a few short hours. Guests will ooh and aah over your wedding lehenga; they'll marvel at the lovely decor; they'll enjoy the delicious reception menu you organized so carefully. But, ultimately, all those things are just a part of the party. A wedding is the celebration of something much more important: the decision two people make to join together and live their lives as one. Amidst the fanfare of your wedding day, try to remember to take a moment or two and gaze across the crowd. Find the face of your spouse. Watch him or her as they enjoy the day. Share a smile between the two of you, and commit yourself to finding a way, each and every day, to bring those smiles back to your faces.

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